The Truth About Nothing: Online Dating with Lydia Hill
Why online dating? It’s easy. Simple as that. In today’s society, we are constantly looking for shortcuts and ways around everything. And online dating is just one of those many short cuts we’ve created to make our life a little easier (or so we think).
Think about. You can literally date as many people as you want via the web, your phone, an app. It literally cuts the time you would normally spend on traditional dating down to basically nothing. Online dating provides you with people to “talk to”, and then you decide whether you want to actually meet these people in real life. Let’s face it, dating is scary in itself, but online dating is just as scary. You can literally be anyone you want online! And in return, you never really know who you are actually meeting online.
I remember back in 2012, I decided to venture out into online dating. It was partly a bet with me and my friend. She signed up and wanted me to do it with her to see how many dates we could each go on. We were clearly bored with life, but it was probably the funniest yet worse experience ever. Let me just say, the messages I received with corny pick-up lines. LAWD. The thing was I was never schooled in how to properly date via the internet. I just went about it the way I thought you were supposed to; the regular way. WRONG. I talked too much. I shared certain things about myself (I probably should not have). I gave my number out to way too many guys (bad idea).
But I only met with one guy.
I met him at his house. We talked for a little and watched a movie. The kicker? He talked about his ex-wife for majority of the time and that turned me ALL the way off. When I realized things were going nowhere, I started to hint that it was time for me to go home. And as he walked me to the subway, he was adamant at meeting me again. And, I was not.
And we never did. But it didn’t end there, because he had my number. He would constantly call me and text me random nudes. He even started to harass me, calling me ugly, fat, and desperate. Then I got an iPhone and blocked his ass.
I say all this to say, be careful. Yes, online dating is supposed to be an alternative to traditional dating. Yes, it cuts back on the amount of time you have to spend on actually meeting people in person. Yes, it’s easier for people who are very busy with work, kids, etc. But it also can be very dangerous. I would never meet with someone I didn’t feel comfortable with, but at the same time I have friends who constantly are meeting people online in person, only weeks after talking to them.
Online dating can be just as enjoyable as regular traditional dating. It just takes time. It definitely takes a certain type of person to actually enjoy online dating.
In my case, it just wasn’t meant for me.
Lydia Moore-Hill is a 20-something year old who thinks she knows it all. She’s a freelance writer, occasional blogger and full-time hustler. In February 2014, she did the unthinkable and made her relationship blog public. She is a Beyoncé stan, gossip queen, and (kinda) a naturalista. When Lydia is not people watching in Philly, she’s either on Twitter (@sealedwitha_lyd) or ranting about her failed relationships on her blog, Sealed By Lyd.
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